The Help!

Shay Thomas
Dec 15, 2016
2 min read

Being vulnerable enough to ask and receive help is something I struggle with. I don't have all the answers and realize that some situations I need help from others. After years of never letting my haters see me sweat, I built up a mentality of finding a way out of no way. Have you ever asked for help and people laugh at you, instead of welcoming you with open arms? Then you become so mad that you even bothered to ask and now you're back to being in your shell, only asking God for answers. It's so the story of my life.

I look like I have it all together, but with each step I take my anxiety is through the roof. I get so worried about my next step I sometimes forget to look at how many steps I climbed. If you ask, you shall receive, but the process of how can you be strong enough to get through the ridicule is the struggle. Can someone who's always been strong have a weak moment? Is it really a weak moment or just trials and tribulations out loud!

I'm not rich and don't feel the need to pretend I am. I learned to live within my means, so I can't stunt yet, but I will when I'm official lol. What I can show you along the way is my growth and how I have managed to live within my means, but make it as glamorous as I can. Help can come in all shapes and sizes whether its financial, getting a job, a shoulder to lean on, advice, providing a village for your children, or a simple favor. I have learned there may be a 1,00o no's, but you will eventually get some yes'. Don't be afraid to ask for help! Below are some tips that have helped me figure some things out good luck on your journey!

Tips:

Budget- This is the one that seems very difficult even for me, but I said that I would start treating my household like a business. I write down all money that comes in and goes out, its a great way to see things you can cut out. You can save for that house, business idea, or vacation even when you think it's not possible.

Google is life and Google is your friend so just ask Google lol...even the most random questions and you will find a few answers!

Price Match-Don't always go for the first price you see try to look around for the best deals Target may have it for 39.99, but Walmart has it for 20.99 save your gas or the 2 day shipping wait and Price Match right at the store.

Clearance Racks-On the days life is so boring go looking to see what cool items are now marked down, trust me that pair of shoes you splurged on will be half the price on that clearance rack. ( I seen this happen a million times).

Work Perks-When applying for jobs try to aim for the companies that match the lifestyle you want and enjoy, most times the things you need to save for, can be accessed for a fraction of the price or free.